Story time:
Once upon a time there was an attractive guy who hit on me at the library... He asked for my number, I thought "hey, why not", he called. We made plans for a lunch date, we then talked a couple times that week.
He cancelled the lunch date because something came up with his schedule. We kept talking on the phone, and made plans for the following week. He was nice and we had a lot of thoughts in common.
We believed a lot of the same things about society and culture, we agreed on a lot of the same things about God. He isn't Mormon, he is a Christian though. He even volunteers at his church on Saturdays to clean it. I liked that.
We also had the same thoughts about food and nutrition. About health and adventure. We talked every other day or so and got to know each other better each time.
Then date plan #2 fell through, his schedule again came up as busy and he couldn't make it.
This is the time I started to think "hmmmm, you're interested in getting to know me on the phone, why not in person?" I started recognizing why I prefer getting to know people in person.
I feel you get a better sense of who they are in person, because really, in person I can see how they react to me making faces at them and I can see if they'll laugh and make one back. Truly, they can see my idiosyncrasies and I can SEE (not guess) theirs.
That translates to telephones being a little to impersonal for my taste.
Anywho, back to the story. I decided to go for "third times the charm" on the idea of date actually happening. We talked more, set up the third date, but it never happened.
Interest was gone on my part. I had asked him why the dates kept falling through and all he could say was his schedule would get messed up (he was a student working on degree hours in the community/personal trainer so his time management/schedule was in his hands), but he felt it would "just happen".
Tell me people how that works?!
I can completely attest to "things" having a much higher chance of happening when we try to make said things happen. Just sayin'.
A week later I think he was testing my interest in him, so he stopped being the one to call. I didn't call him, that ended that.
Or so I thought...
Last Wednesday morning I got a phone call from a blocked number (I have no problem answering those calls so I did). It was him, it had been about 3 weeks since I talked to him, not gonna lie, it was a little awkward.
Within the first two minutes of talking, after exchanging the "how are things" question, he proceeded to tell me he couldn't let someone like me be passed up... he told me he had a dream a few nights before... A DREAM THAT WE GOT MARRIED.
Mind you this man probably doesn't remember exactly what I look like since he only saw me in person for like 10 minutes max, but he dreamed it still the same.
I told him that was weird. I'm not gonna lie. It was. It was weird that's why he called me, it's weird that he actually wanted to tell someone he wouldn't meet for a real date he dreamt they got married. When we got off the phone he called me his "love"
Just. Weird. There will now be no dates happening EVER per my say so. Creep factor wins out over good looking Every. Single. Time.
This experience with having a guy pursue me, if that's what you can call it, was a big eye opener on what I really want.
I want a worthy priesthood holder who can take me to the temple, but only AFTER we get to know each other, in person, on real dates, and decide TOGETHER that we both want the same things in life. God. Family. Service and Missionary work. Good Food ;). And all that good stuff.
Lessons learned.
The End.
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